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IPFW/Parkview Student Assistance Program

A Guide to Letting Go

Hugh Caldwell, in his article The Mortality Rate in our Freshman Class, states that of 107 post high school learning institutions surveyed, 32.0% of freshman fail to return to school for their sophomore year. The reasons he sites in his article include lack of funding, illness, and transfers; but the primary reason is academic failure. Of the five remedies to these problems concluded in his article, the Student Assistance Counseling Program deals with the third. This is the remedy of providing more careful supervision and systemic guidance. A student’s support system becomes an intricate part of increasing the odds of a successful freshman year and an eventual graduation from college.

You as a parent of a college student are the primary piece of that support system. How willing and able you are to support your student will vary based on your resources? Needed support may come in several different forms and may be indicative of the same type needed during the high school experience. Exploring these issues may be beneficial to both student and parent in order for each to better understand each other’s needs and expectations.

While students are going through the process of becoming more independent and responsible, parents are going through the process of allowing this to happen. There are both healthy and unhealthy ways for this process to take place. When either parent or student feels there is a breakdown in the system, Student Assistance Counseling could the answer.

A student assistance counselor can help parents deal with “letting go” and allowing their student to become more responsible while promoting positive choices and decision making. Parents may need to be involved in one or more aspect of the student’s transition into college. These issues can be discussed and plans negotiated toward successfully accomplishing the goals.

In addition to the adjustments related to beginning a post high school education experience, students and parents may experience common mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, problems with concentration/focus, and irritability. Relationship problems can occur or get worse along with issues of self confidence, motivation, procrastination and time management. Decision making can be affected and academic success compromised.

Again parents may feel the need to intervene and get help for themselves or their student and the SAP Counseling office may be the place to go for help. This service is free and confidential. It is provided by caring counseling professionals who help students and parents with a multitude of problems. Call 260-266-8060 for an appointment.